The "Growing Through Grief" Series

When Your Spouse Dies
by John Kennedy Saynor

"Unfortunately, the time comes in every relationship when one spouse dies and the other is left to mourn the loss. Regardless of the nature of the relationship - whether it was good or bad - the loss will be significant.

The map of your life has changed. Not only do you not know where you are going, you probably don't want to go anywhere. You would gladly go back to where you were especially if you were happy. In time you will slowly begin to find your way again. You will set new directions for your life. You will sense you are going somewhere again."

Tip: Although your loved one is no longer with you physically, his or her love, influence and memory will never leave you. There will be days when you will be doing things that he or she would have wanted you to do. Then there will be days when you will say, "If Bob knew I was doing this, he would roll over in his grave!" or "If Jean could see me now, she would die laughing!" Let the memories and the stories be a comfort to you and give you the courage to carry on.